In the era of online dating, the boundaries or the limitations have been blurred. With technology, the world has become a small place and the choices have increased immensely. Having said that, even dating apps aim at specific values or interest to attract people. Thus, one can say that the vessel has changed but the ingredients remain the same. Even today, just like in the time of Jane Austen, women prefer to be with carefully handpicked men. Also, because of the increase in the number of choices for both males and females, women feel it is necessary to screen the men and vice versa. Question is what kind of men really stands out? What are the traits that will get the attention of women?
Wear the confidence
Confidence is the most attractive trait in a person. Women like to see and prefer a confident personality to indecisiveness. There are certain factors, which converge to generate a confident personality.
First and foremost thing is to appear self-confident. In order to do so, maintain a correct posture. Not many people are aware of the fact that correct posture improves the sound of the voice as well. Good posture ensures proper breathing. Deep breathing helps project the voice better thus maximizing the power of the voice. Tuck in the stomach, lift the chest out a little and sit straight. This will give the impression of someone who can carry oneself. An assertive posture will make you look sharp and give a sense of pride and confidence.
Secondly, it’s important to maintain eye contact. The ability to meet the gaze is one of the social skills a lot of young men seem to be struggling with these days. The ability to hold eye contact has proved to create some incredible benefits for the gazer. Men who can make and maintain eye contact are perceived as more confident, emotionally stable, trustworthy, honest and sincere. Not to mention that making eye contact increases the quality of conversation. In fact, men can talk looking into the eyes are thought to be more attractive and likeable. This is because eye contact imparts a sense of intimacy, which leaves the other one feel, connected to you.
Smile is contagious. So, don’t be miser when it comes to smiling. Smiling makes the voice sound more pleasant and emanates positive vibes. Not only does it makes you look more confident but also friendly, approachable and composed. A genuine smile makes you look more attractive and trustworthy, just the traits women look for in men.
Feel good factor
Confidence is also generated from inside. If a man feels confident from within, it shows on the outside. For that to happen, he must steer clear of all kinds of negativity and doubts. Instead, he must focus on good and positive qualities. Being positive will keep you relaxed and feel confident around women.
This is typically mistaken to build hard abs and look beefy. According to studies, women are more likely to have short-term relationships with sturdy men. It is advised to hit the gym or exercise regularly to get the endorphins going and sweat away your stress. Reduction in stress makes you feel better about yourself thus resulting in exhibiting a confident appearance.
Work on your overall health, build a fit body, grow taller while you still can, groom yourself get a good haircut. All these things will make you more confident
Master the sartorial sense
Ensemble is the cover page of your persona. Men tend to overlook the importance of clothing. Well, clothes make a difference in how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us. Your attire reflects your personal style. Making an effort in clothing well never goes unnoticed by women. Moreover, dressing will definitely add to your level of confidence.
A well groomed man is noticed more than a shabby looking one. Grooming includes hair, facial hair, body odor and overall cleanliness. Women are attracted to men who can take care of themselves.
Shoes are the first things that women notice in a man’s style. It is important to wear the right kind of shoes according to the season and occasion. Well-polished or clean shoes do say a lot about your choices, so it’s better to put some thoughts into it.
Well-ironed and tailored clothes make a statement about you. Hence, it is strongly recommended to spend some time and effort to dress well and dress right according to the occasion in order to make the lasting impression.
Women, usually, have an eye for details. Men who cater to details appear to be more attractive. Well-chosen one or two accessories can truly step up your style quotient. Watches, rings, bracelets, pocket scarves or lapel pins, each of these should be taken seriously if you wish to mark your presence in a woman’s life.
Tickle the funny bone
Humor is one of the traits that make men very attractive, but not all men have the mastery over this. Humor is supposed to be charming. So, one has to know the right kind of humor lest you end up being that “immature guy” or just another “funny guy”. A good humor radiates mysterious confidence as it gives a sense of having the ability to solve problems beautifully and also shows a positive approach. It is important to know to express humor in the correct way. To begin with, avoid jokes that demean people or make others look bad. More than the person you are demeaning, it gives a wrong impression about your mindset. The secret mantra to being humorous is to be self-amused. Only if you truly believe it to be amusing your body language will generate a fun, positive attitude, which is charming. You might come across as an immature person if you keep cracking jokes one after other. The smart thing is to make it an interactive experience. That way she will feel more connected and involved. There are ways to show your funny side in a wise way. You can her any funny incident from your own life. Don’t be shy to share a story where the joke is on you, if you think the story is really funny. It will only highlight the confidence in you. Narrate your stories in an entertaining way. Maybe you can share your feelings about the incident while you give her an insight of your past. Occasionally cracking jokes and being vulnerable at times make you more desirable.
Set your goals
If you want others to take you seriously, you first need to take yourself seriously. By taking oneself seriously doesn’t mean one needs to contemplate life and be gloomy about it. It means one should have some goals set in his mind. He should have a plan in his head and a passion to achieve the goals. As much as one thinks earning a hefty amount can make you look attractive, the truth is women find men with a goals and drive. A clear idea and actively pursuing what he believes in makes you attractive to women. Having an intention in life makes you appear responsible, sensible and matured as compared to men who prefer going with the flow or trying to impress their parents. If you are passionate about something, say a tea, a book, a recipe, a job, don’t hide it. It just shows how genuine you are.
Work on the culinary skills
Gone are the days when cooking used to be associated with women only. For a woman, a man who can cook exotic gourmet dinner is more desirable. Moreover, men who can cook are perceived to be responsible and independent. Women also see a helping hand in men who have a way with cooking.
It’s okay to be vulnerable
Vulnerability doesn’t steal your masculinity. Rather it enhances it and makes you more desirable. Relationship is a two way street. It, obviously, won’t last for long if only one of the partners show the vulnerability while the other one pretends to be all safe and happy. Usually, men hesitate to disclose their weaknesses. Don’t be. Every human being has imperfections and fears and doubts. In fact, by letting your guards down you are letting your woman in. Women find emotional bond to be the strongest bond between two people. It’s okay to talk about fears and failures just like it is okay to pet an animal or drop a tear while watching an emotional movie. There is nothing to be ashamed of rather it is seen as a sign of self-respect.
It is a human behavior to be inclined towards love. Love, here, means being supportive and sensible towards your woman. In other words, being thoughtful. In order to be thoughtful, one need not maintain a diary of her likes and dislikes. Just be attentive. By being fully present with women, you give her the sense of being seen and heard. Make eye contact, turn down your cell phone, and listen to her. That way, you make yourself available to her. Some women take time to open up. Your attentive presence will give her the confidence to open up to you and be connected on emotional level.
Pursue her right
It is always the way you pursue women determines the kind of women you end up with. It is important for men to pursue women with honesty and authenticity. It is one thing to express your sexual desires and interests openly and honestly and a totally different thing to boast or flaunt it. Latter can put you in the category of people who is into casual sex, which not many seem to approve of. Expressing sexual desire comes with the process of removal of internal barriers. So, you must know if you have reached the stage where you can be open about your desires.
Everything starts with you and within you. So if you wish you to be attractive to women, instead of relying on opening lines and trying to be somebody that you are not, work on improving yourself. Once you accept the way you are, everything that you say or do will come across as genuine, confident and attractive.